Dear Diary,
There is a good news, father gave me 3lakh rs today. Its for my wedding. I have asked for 7 lakhs total from him, which is a not much. I don't want to spend my own money on my wedding. So, I will be buy all the furniture to be gifted(2lakhs), a 2nd hand car(3.5-4.5lakhs) , our honeymoon trip to Bali + 1 month stay in Goa(3lakhs) and miscellaneous (1lakh) from my savings so far. 100% of them. My mom and dad will spend the rest. Mom already purchased gold worth 5 lakhs. Rest she also have budget of 7l lakhs. So, total 12(mom)+7(dad)+ ~80k(relatives) so far. Rest if anything exceeds I can pay but mom says she can do upto 13 max. Even Bae is going to spend 10 lakhs for reception. Weddings are damn expensive.
Throughout my life I had always tried to not make my parents pay much for anything, went to govt school then govt college. Never asked for anything from them. And I always used to think I don't want to spend much on my wedding cause i didn't want to burden them. I wanted a very very simple and cost effective wedding.
This was until I fell in love with Bae, and then I wanted to celebrate our wedding and have a blast. I have dated before too, but never felt like that. Now I want to look beautiful, have all my loved ones with me and I want everyone to enjoy. I just hope we don't exceed our budget. So far it looks good. I mean, they can easily recover/save the entire money again in 3 years just from their pensions. So, that's why I don't feel bad about spending their money. Anyways mom and dad had this budget even before I fell in love with Bae, so its not that Ik increased my budget. Its just that now I also want to spend.
What I only cared for earlier was a honeymoon in Bali and a trip to Europe. And I already have saved for both, because I didn't want to be dependent on the guy, what if he doesn't have that much budget. And that's what happened. Bae didn't have any savings much untill I asked him for marriage. Now he is saving money for Reception. His dad is no more, their business failed, so he had to clear the debts first. So, did not have any savings till then. He was not even planning to get married in next 2 3 years. But he knew it was important for me to get married. I am 3 years older than him as well. So he can save 10lakhs for Reception in 1.5 years but not for honeymoon. They have lots of traditions and need to give a lot of gifts to relatives in their culture. A lot of money is spent on it and on jewellery which his family will gift me.
Plus my brother also earns a lot, so he may contribute too if budget increases due to some reason. For example flights now cost more 6-6.5k now which is more than double of what it costed last year which was 2.5-3k for Delhi-kolkata flights.
Regards,
Anne