24: My heart’s rambles.

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( if anyone reads this, do tell me if I’m being disrespectful. And also what else should I add to my final declaration 😜)

I just want to get it out of my system. I wanna say all of this to my husband but I’m not sure if I’ll really say it or not. 

My husband is trying to make his mother and me be in good terms all the time unlike the first daughter in law. We’re already in good terms. So it annoys me sometimes when he keeps on mentioning it to me. 

He asked me to wear a traditional dress for our wedding anniversary in October. I didn’t mind that much. I’m fine with it because its an addition to my collection. When we spoke to my mother in law over the phone she asked me to wear a casual dress and I was kinda happy that I can escape the traditional dress. At the end I would have chosen whichever I like and feel comfortable anyway. My husband said, “She looks super happy. Because I was asking her to wear a traditional dress.” 

My mother in law’s reply, “My order is more powerful than yours,” in a fun tone. But I completely lost it. 

Am I a dog or a pet? To obey your orders! What does she take me for? I may be quiet and be non-rebellious unlike the first daughter-in-law but I do respect myself a lot to tolerate all this just for the sake of keeping everyone around me happy and satisfied. 

I’m gonna tell my husband that I will not tolerate such behavior. I won’t quarrel with her or express my discontent to her. But I’ll sure as hell will express it to him. And also make myself clear that I’ll do whatever the hell I want but I won’t disrespect her. I can lie once or twice to make her happy. I can not follow her order if it is not a request. And lastly I’ll do what I like and don’t try to be a puppet master of my life. 
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Aug 11, 2022 · 43 views

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ratzAug 12, 2022

Yeah 🤗 you are right. But few things when i keep it inside for a long time it bursts out one day and its more hurting and damaging. I wont open my mouth when I’m angry. But i will always tell him whatever i felt because i dont want it to grow to be bigger lump in my mind. So once i tell him, i feel light.

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Kung Fu Panda 🤠Aug 12, 2022

Sometimes, dont you think that we should not take things word to word. Firstly, Not everyone is very articulate to use the right words to express themselves. She may not really want to order you, probably it was just her way of trying to be funny. Second, i think, we can be more forgiving and not mind everyone and take it on our ego. Unless she actually orders you and disrespect you, you should let it go. These small things (since they are in your mind), if someday in anger you said to your husband, it would hurt him. I think its really nice that he is trying to keep you and his mom like each other. Many men feel helpless there, i have seen. :) 🤗

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