Emotions, no matter how intense, don’t become love by mere existence. Without choice, without risk, without accountability, they are nothing but convenient experiences, a way to feel important while avoiding responsibility.
A heart that changes nothing proves nothing. To remain where it is safe, to speak of love without action, is not depth; it is avoidance masquerading as intensity. Words can echo sincerity without ever manifesting in reality. They may claim devotion, but without action they remain hollow.
If you belong to someone else, you have no right to romanticise betrayal, to construct narratives of love that exist only for your convenience. Attempting to assert significance to someone while living in another commitment is not passion; it is self-serving justification. It is a way to seek validation without confronting choice, a refuge for weakness masquerading as intensity.
A healthy love requires boundaries, honesty, and the courage to act. You call this a difference in feeling; I call it a difference in values. Love is measured not by the force of emotion, but by the willingness to risk, to choose, to live it. Love without consequence, without commitment, without change, is not love. It is illusion, emotional theatre, a performance designed for comfort, leaving the life around it untouched. Words may speak of devotion, but without deeds, they are empty.
If you wish to speak of love, let it be more than a story told to soothe yourself. Let it be visible, tangible, lived. Otherwise, it is nothing. The truth is that you have avoided the responsibility that love demands. Either leave, or admit that all of this has been a search for excuses, a shelter for weakness, a way to glorify betrayal instead of confronting it.
And understand this - continuing to speak of love while doing nothing is not romantic, it is cruel to anyone you claim to care for. To call such avoidance love is the real betrayal. If you cannot step into responsibility, step aside. Anything less is a refusal to grow, a refusal to face truth, and a choice to remain small when courage is required