January 02, 2025

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Dear Diary,


I was talking to an old friend the other day. Well, me and her actually had lost contact for a while and recently reconnected. We talked about her previous relationship and how.. well, she felt like he wasn't giving any effort into their relationship towards the end of it. An exact reflection of how I used to feel about her a few years ago. The only reason why I managed to take her back as a friend was because I've learned to manage my expectations. 

Friendships or relationships aren't as clear cut as we want it to be. Just because they didn't do something you wanted them to, it doesn't automatically make them a bad friend or person. I think, once I learned that people express their care for you differently. It kinda gets easier dealing with people..and like I said, I can manage my expectations better

As much as I like her company and as a friend, she's well.. her life is too centered about finding a partner for her to be the kind of friend I want her to be. She'll always put her friends in the backseat the moment she gets a boyfriend lol. Also, I stopped expecting her to check up on me like I used to do for her. I used to be so concerned for her emotional wellbeing but I guess, you can say that my priorities has changed. But in other ways, she's been helpful. Assignments or advice wise. So, that pretty much sums up her role in my life.   

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Sky
Jan 2, 2025 · 31 views

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SkyJan 9, 2025

@Songbird Thank you for your insights.. Happy new years & new you!

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SongbirdJan 2, 2025

It is true, there are a lot of people who are out there that suck. They aren't there when you need them. They don't put in the effort. It feels like you are doing all the work. But just be careful about lowering your expectations. You deserve good people around you and don't ever think of yourself less. I am happy you saw that she is someone you shouldn't put in as much mental energy in and continue forward. It may sound harsh but when it comes to your own wellbeing it is important. It is ok to be selfish sometimes. I do have to admit I was/am a lot like her. It is a hard cycle to break lol just because having a partner is nice but a lot of drama comes with it. I am not giving an excuse for your friend to push you away like she did, but I am saying I understand where she is coming from. It is something I am learning to avoid because your life can't just be about your partner. There is so much more and it is one of goals year. Sorry I'm rambling now lol. Just remember you are worth good people. You got this and are slaying like the queen you are. Make sure to keep your chin up when life get's tough. HAPPY NEW YEARS!!! Lots of love. Songbird

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