Dear Diary,
On my way home today a song came on the radio called she's all i wanna be by Tate McRae. I personally somewhat like the song just because of how well she sings it but the whole concept of the song just makes me hate the basic mentality so much more.
The verse "she's got everything I don't have, how could I ever compete with that" bugs the hell out of me because it's just supporting the idea that a hot body is what matters/ is what it takes when it's really not. A guy wants someone who will make him happy. Whether the intention is selfish or not, emotional happiness is what we crave and the idea of a guy throwing away a girl who makes him happy for someone with a "smaller waist" is just bullshit.
Obviously in specific situations this doesn't apply. For example a girl that's rebounding from f-boy to f-boy is bound to have her heart broken if she catches feelings. It's not fair to be sad that he left when you put yourself in danger. If you stand in a highway you're gonna get killed because you put yourself in danger and in the path of an inevitable disaster.
It's so commonly over complicated when it's so simple. He left you because you didn't make him happy emotionally. It's basic logic that a guy isn't gonna leave someone if she makes him happy. Why would he?
Would you throw out food you really like? Throw away important papers?
Throw everything that you love in the ocean? No... no you wouldn't because why would you? and the only people that would say yes are not mentally stable.
Look at the movies... the main character: an attractive, successful man, who is single and open to relationships. He finds himself between 2 girls and the whole movie is about deciding who he likes the most.
We all know it's never the girl with the "model body". Its always the ordinary girl that nobody would look twice at, its the girl he relates to, the girl who makes him laugh, its always the girl that makes him happy.
It's not about her body, it's not about money, where she comes from, or who her friends are... it's about "I've never felt this way about anybody before" and no man who's thought that would ever leave her for someone with a smaller waist.
Do guys take physical attraction into consideration? Yes, everybody does but its physical attraction enough to make him cheat, to make him leave you for someone her? No, its not. It's not her body pulling him away, it's her making him emotionally happy.. and that is something you may not have.
If a man leaves it's because you aren't making him happy.
If he cheats, it's because there's a neglect of happy affection (not that it justifies cheating but there's a reason for everything).
It's not about your body, its about who you are and how you make them feel.