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Wise One,
I'm a bit frustrated and I don't know if it makes sense.
As I said previously I have been worried about my in laws, due to lack of water. My sister in law has been collecting money for a trip out here. They also have to plan carefully because there state is enforcing curfews.
Well, his sister collected enough money and called us earlier yesterday asking to come by next weekend. We were thrilled, I was relieved they would pick up the water. Also a week gives me enough time to finish the coffee table I am building and to finish rearranging the house.
However, later on that day, his sister asked about finances and he tells her he just got his unemployment check. Then she calls us in the middle of the night asking to come over today instead. Since my husband was already asleep, literally waking up to the phone call, he agreed without processing it. Moreover, he agreed to his sister staying for 3 days. Previously, the plan was for her and her son to stay the night here and head back the next day.
He wakes me up to let me know what's going on, and I am very annoyed at this. We have one night to turn the office into a guest room, put away my building materials. Then we also have to groom the dogs and thoroughly clean everything they touch so that her allergies don't act up too much. It's so much to do in one night.
I worked by myself as my husband watched tv. It really got me irritated. When I asked why he wasn't helping he said, "why should we go out of our way for them if they are just change the plans so we have no time to prepare?" Though I see his point, I don't want to deal with the rude comments they make if the house isn't at a certain standard.
To make matters worse, we just found out that it isn't just his sister and our nephew coming, as discussed. Now it's his parents, older brother, and I don't who else. They haven't even arrived and they were asking for us order expensive food for them (right after they got themselves McDonald's). We explained that right now most places close at 5 pm. Many buffets and restaurants are still closed, which we explained when they first called. I offered to make dinner, but they refused and insisted on ordering delivery for whatever is open. His brother is already asking for money too. I know they are only acting like this because he got his unemployment, but it really isnt much and we need it for food and bills.
I'm frustrated because I did want them to come, it would be such a relief for them to have water. However, I do not like the way they are going about it. All this last minute change of plans is really stressful. Not knowing how many are coming and if anyone is sick is hard. Yet, it's selfish to feel this way. After all, their access to water is most important.
After all my studies, I feel like I should be prepared for these feelings. I should just observe the feeling and let it go. Its kind of disappointing I can't seem to do that yet.
Thanks for letting me vent wise one. I'll try to get better control by time they get here