Dear Diary,
On 10th of July, me and Bae were supposed to get engaged but my father is so negative about him sometimes so we decided to better skip it now as he might sabotage our engagement. Bae belongs to a village in Haryana, he is a Jaat, and I am a bengali from West Bengal... Jaats are known to be very orthodox and prideful community... And so, if my father misbehaved with anyone, they would never except me... We don't want to take that risk.... Our cultures are so different in that way.... Bengalis are known to be more progressive and liberal... But Bae and his family are also progressive and liberal, and being from such a place, it takes so much more credit to be that...
My father is very possessive kind of person, I am sure he would find fault in whoever I had chosen for marriage.... He has a problem with him cause Bae belongs from a village, he is not Bengali, his family not as educated as we are etc... He sometimes is ok with him, sometimes is totally against me marrying him... He wants me to marry someone from West Bengal, preferably Bengali... And stay close to him all our life.... I can understand his emotions he wants to be able to see me more often... But we love who we love... If I don't get to marry him, I won't marry anyone else ever... Its as simple as that... So, I am going to marry him with or without his approval...
I love Bae's family, his family consists of 3 people, he, his mom and his younger brother... All 3 are really nice and sweet people.... Bae is currently the sole bread earner of the family... He is also responsible for his brother's education... I like that he is such a responsible man... He is highly ambitious and is very intelligent as well... In 3 years, he is earning 7 times more than what we started with... He would be the 1st man from among all his relatives to be doing love marriage... Surprisingly every single one of his relatives were very excited about us getting married... Well, there are two things, he has a image of being a responsible person, so they believe if he is bringing someone from so far, she must be a nice person.... And secondly, I am good looking and I have a good job, and my family is highly educated, with both parents in govt jobs, my father and brother both are IITians, mom KV teacher and national level TT player... I also studied from reputed state govt college... And I am good at dancing, singing, painting as well... So yeah, everyone was excited, one relative even said she is also looking from such a bride for her son, who is both good looking and have a job...
My mom's side seemed really jealous of us, they did not show any excitement or happiness, instead made me cry over it. Just because I am the first one getting married, before my cousin who is 3 months older than me.. I will never forgive them for this...
Coming back to Bae, I am so in love with him I cannot imagine a life without him... I never knew love could feel so good... Maybe I didn't achieve much great in life career wise but I can proudly say I have one of the greatest relationships ever... Its really rare to have what we have... But credit mostly goes to him for making this relationship as great and being such an awesome partner... He puts so much effort in this relationship and always strives to make it the best ...
Regards,
Anne