June 09, 2022 #189

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I’m thinking about one thing again and again recently. 

It was friends of mine I used to exchange texts with like everyday. For a year.  


But my life suddenly became dark two years ago. So I couldn’t reply them ever since. And it has been two years.  I’m doing okay now. 


But is it no good to say hi to them…? 


Would people get confused or bothered if they got text in this kind of situation?  

And how would I write them after two years? Can I just say hi and keep it short and make sure I don’t try to explain everything, then just wait how they react? If they seem to be not interested, I can let it go. Can it be a selfish act? Or not? 


I think they and I were enjoy texting each other. And I feel guilty for cut our relationships all the sudden. 

Actually it wasn’t first time and first time I made a two months absence, I explained to them. 


If they want to talk to me again, they might leave a message for me already……? And they didn’t. So I shouldn’t show them my existence anymore…? 


Do you have this kind of experience? 

What is a good way you think? 

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pandorasfeelingsJun 9, 2022

I really don't think you should degrade your thoughts as overthinking. It's completely alright to take the conversation however you want to. Trust your gut feeling. And it's honestly not easy to explain to another person why you really needed that space in the first place, so take it slow. If you believe you really gain something from the conversations you have with them and it's in someway healthy for you as well to take your mind off of things, then its definitely ok for you to reach out first too. Cos i believe everybody reads a situation differently so there is a chance, however low it is, that they might have thought you needed the space too and would reach out when you are ok. So trust your instincts.

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A free BirdJun 9, 2022

i also did the same thing once. ofcourse not for this much long time. But when i was going through a very tough time in my life. i hardly use to talk with any of my friends even when i knew they are so much worried about me. But after long time when everything went back to the track, I reconnected with them and realized nothing has changed between us. May be this is only what we called friendship 🙃

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WILLOWJun 9, 2022

I went through some article online. then found a good-enough message “How have you been? It’s been a long time since we last talked. I wanted to catch up and see how you’re doing.” Thats natual and simple way to just leave a statement that i would like to text you again. Overthinked? Maybe? But thats me :(

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