August 13, 2021

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Dear Diary,


It's hard to meet friends when we've all been isolated for so long. I think it's weird, anyway, that adults don't even seem to like making new friends. Most people prefer to just stagnate in their social comfort zone. 


I moved to a new place, because I needed to. I don't know anyone here. I tried bringing my next door nieghbors a plant, but they had no interest.


So, I'm on these apps to meet friends. And I see people talking about the sad losers on these apps. How awkward and desperate they must be. Yet society creates desperation by gatekeeping relationships. If you haven't had the same friendships since you were in middle school, you're kind of up a creek. 


I've taken classes, spent time in gyms, and tried to join a local club (They were not just unwelcoming to me, but to other people I saw trying to join as well.) So, I don't think the issue is that I'm unlikable, but that people become closed off as we get older. So, yes, I'm on the apps, to meet the few people who care about making friends.


People need new friends at any age. You move, you need friends. You divorce, and suddenly find all your friends were your spouse's friends. Your kids grow up, and you realize you were so involved in their social lives, you no longer know who you are. Those are the stories I hear the most. I know some people really don't need more friends. My husband is that way. I'm enough for him, he says. But, I can't make him carry the burden of all the friendship I need. And I have a lot to offer as a loyal and supportive friend to others. I think my situation is sadly very common.


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CalleeGeeAug 14, 2021

Im so glad you have developed a friend network! I always had a tough time making friends, so when I was a younger adult, I valued my superficial relationshipsblike real friendships. I suppose they didnt really have a foundation. But I always keep at it! I've actually made one friend, which is significant to me. The piano app sounds fun! I play the ukulele, and concertina. Not particularly good at either yet, but I'm working on it. :)

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RedAug 14, 2021

That was my experience when I was younger. But now that I'm older I have some really good friends their visit there often busy. I only started picking up simply piano which is the best app that I have found thus far. I played in the past on other piano apps. But I've come a long way with this one you should try it sometime. Laxing and it does take up time.

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CalleeGeeAug 14, 2021

Red, we have a lot in common! I like to do those things, too! I'm also married with no kids. Only I don't play the piano! Awesome that you do! :) But, yes, I didnt even get into how people use each other. Very sad. I'm sorry if that's been your experience.

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RedAug 14, 2021

It is hard to meet new friend that really want a new friendship. That don't want to just use you. I understand where you're coming from at the risk of saying hang in there. That's what I do, I have friends but they're very busy with kids I dont have any kid so I have free time. I am married and I have a lot of hobbies I like to draw, sing, play the piano, write poetry, sew, that's just a few of my hobbies.

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