Dear future tushar,
we have read that quote a lot that "Life is a bitch fuck it hard" but we just put that in our bios and never really mean what it says, life is not a bitch its a game, well recently i watched the video i had been procrastinating a lot, which is "Mark Manson's life is game here are the cheat codes" the video is pretty deep if you dare to understand it but it simply portrays life as a simple game and there are various levels on which every human being is hanging, well the level thing seems pretty much obvious but what excited me the most was the cheat codes, i was just amazed by this new perspective of looking life, well here are some of our understandings to it, "problems" is actually another name of life like just imagine if you were to play a game and there are no missions and there are no levels to clear would it be interesting to you or would it even be a game to you and thats what life is, every problem and every aspect of your life has some missions and what we to do to excel it, we are always constantly trying to become better and collect more coins and powerups just in case we are in trouble in future and thats what life is all about and though how much we prepare for the next levels we never really clear it with our existing powers and weapons , there is always a new weapon or a new power or a new story for different aspect and different problems of game similar is with life.
we can never really solve a big problem with our existing knowledge we have to create and apply something new, and we learn also so much from each problem, if we start looking life that way it would be so interesting to live it and literally we need no philosophy to motivate us coz we are only motivated by the idea of playing it and clearing the missions.
Now enough of the philosophy, lets hit to the cheat codes:
1. "I AM RESPONSIBLE", yeah literally saying this line to yourslef again and again just makes you so powerful, whenever you play a game you dont blame others or situations for your failure of level, you simply think yeah I made this mistake here and next time i have to do that or this, and this perspective not only limits to your career goals it even is applicable on your relationships as they are also a aspect of your life and part of the game, so to improve them also you have to behave like a player(not the one which you think you dumbass) i mean player of life.
Well, here is the thing which will help you the most, seeing things as "distractions" and "solutions", there are only two things which you probably maybe doing right now either you pursuing distractions or solutions, a distraction is simply an action which you do to simply to ignore your problems and missions, yeah sometimes hanging around in cars and partying helps as they are a part of GTA vice city and it pretty much has its own element of fun but simply roaming around and watching youtube videos and you know all your distractions better then me you pursue them, simply ignoring problems aint gonna helop you,
a serious shitty line that will blow your mind
"the more often you use solution or distraction the easier it becomes to use it next time"
yeah deep one i know, but its true either you everytime think of solution of problem or you see ways of distracting yourself from the problem.
DISTRACTIONS = "same level STUCKKKK"
SOLUTIONS = "next level promoteeee"
well you know that life is that type of game which is designed to throw difficult problems to you.and constantly pursuing distractions will make you someone no one wants to hangout with and you ll get the same people who are also pursuing distractions like you like your situation right now.
2. Write the shit down, write down everything that comes or revolves in your mind because its so necessary and integral part of your game, just to realize your mistakes
and writing shit down just gives you a whole new perspective of seeing things.(probably why we started this)
3. "stop fucking complaining" well a great thought again from mark manson "people complain not to hate but to gain empathy from the people around them"
4."stop fantasizing" look fantasizing is a little good when it comes to law of attraction and all but you just cant differentiate when you are fantasizing and when you are visualizing so thats why until you have a control on it no fantasizing and visualization, well there are many contradicting thoughts which will come tou you regarding this but simply ignore them.
5. "share your shame" the best way to remove the darkest parts of ours is to shine light on them so just share everytime what mistake you did even constantly post your mistakes on social media then you ll be among very few people whom people can relate too.
and finally some last words this perspective doesnt miraculuolsy apply to your life, you have to force yourself sometimes or sometimes just relax and think this way, philosophy should ease your mental health rather putting stress on it.
same about the relationship problems you are having, the people whom you were hanging out were are really nice but are actually failures and distracters in their mind, they just do is distract themselves from the problem and how did you end up with them because you were the same dumbass, no matter how much you feed yourself this self help and fool yourself that you are doing great at life you still are just a consumer and not producer and action taker, so first become a action taker and then help people take actions, first put on your oxygen mask and then help people put theirs.